Finding Yourself

How many of you reading this have spent most of your life trying to find what it is you were meant to do on this earth?

Some of us struggled through a lot of different avenues until we found the right thing. It might not pay what we wish to make, it might not even give us a lot of recognition, but it is the thing we were meant to do.

And have you ever struggled with self-esteem? Have you managed to find a place in your life where you feel pretty darn confident — finally?

Once you have found yourself through whatever means it took. When you’ve found what it is you feel you were meant to do, AND you feel good about yourself, do you notice others who are anything but excited for you?

They say you are self-centered, selfish, egotistical, and anything else they can throw at you out of jealousy or some other inferior feeling. Maybe they see confidence as arrogance.

It’s difficult when you are confident in yourself to not be arrogant. Perhaps it happens from time to time that you do come across that way. If so, step back and try not to let that happen anymore. Maybe it’s from all of those many years — a lifetime even — of feeling less than and unable to ever feel loved and accepted just the way you are.

So you love yourself. You learn to be proud of yourself no matter what “they” think. And when you finally do find peace and harmony in your life, when you find confidence in who you are, you do not have to ever let someone put you down for finally feeling confident.

We aren’t perfect. Nobody is. So if from time to time others see you as too confident, try not to be that way, but don’t let go of who you are.

And also remember that you have no idea what the other person feels about who they are. They could be suffering with their own self-esteem issues.

It’s really not an easy road to come out of low-self esteem into a place of confidence. It takes years of stepping forward and moving backward. Many tears are cried. Lots of pain is felt.

But my message to you is don’t give up. And don’t ever let someone steal what you have gained. Hear them out, feel what you need to feel, but know that who you are is who you were meant to be and something that you have given your life to achieving, even when often there was not a cheering section on your side of the field.

Just remember there will always be those who wish to burst your bubble. Usually it’s someone you care about the most who does it in a way that hurts the most. Don’t let a temporary hurtful remark stop your progress in anything.

And don’t forget, my book, “Living Life Inside Out,” is available for purchase at BarbKampbell.com.