Rescue Yourself

“Stop waiting to be rescued. Rescue yourself.”
—Bobbi Kahler

Waiting to be rescued can become a habit for many. Some people have no idea how to take care of self so they always know that there’s a safety net to pick up the pieces (the bills, the depression, neediness, etc.).

There are those who believe that eventually the perfect person will come along and rescue them from the mess of a life they have woven. But the reality is there is not someone out there just waiting to rescue us.

These people tend to go from one relationship to another for fear of being alone. They are so desperate to be with another they latch on to someone, often before they finish with the one before. Carrying baggage from one relationship into another without taking time to heal is never a good idea.

Instead of dreaming of prince charming or princess compassion, we need to learn first to take care of ourselves. Thinking that having the perfect someone in our lives will suddenly make us live happily ever after is a pipe dream.

At times in our lives we must take risks, it is part of how we move forward and grow. However, we need to be there for ourselves if we fail. It’s always okay to garner support from friends and family, but if we continue to do things that are not healthy we cannot expect people to be there forever to listen to us yet again.

Loved ones are not there to rescue us. They are there to love us and support us and to help us grow and learn. When we learn to live our lives in a healthy way, when we love ourselves enough, we won’t get in positions requiring rescues.

Learn to love yourself and you will not need to be rescued.